Modern dating sucks.
We're here to help.

1:1 Dating Consulting On Any Channel (Text, Call, Video)

What our clients say about us

"I thought I was a pro dater already, but my Vance coach pointed out blind spots that I found myself immediately nodding along to. No matter how experienced you are, a third-party professional can really help in a way that just asking your friends can’t. "
- Carl
Vance client, 28 year-old from New York City
“Chris is wise AF. He motivated me to get back out there. After our first session, I was inspired to download the dating apps. Give Vance a try if you feel burned out from dating, and they will help it feel more approachable.”
- Maria
Vance client, 28 year-old from San Francisco
Dating Coach

1:1 Dating Consulting

We get it; Modern dating sucks. We're here to help.

Matchmakers are crazy expensive. Getting advice from your friends is the blind leading the blind. Therapists have long waitlists and many are out of touch with modern dating practices.

Our process is different - our coaches are third-party experts trained to listen and guide you through the dating process, whatever your dating and relationship goals may be. Many of our coaches have psychotherapy backgrounds and draw on this knowledge in guiding clients toward the relationships they desire.

How our process works

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Brief assessment

Answer a few questions about your preferences and what you are looking for.

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Personalized match

We'll match you with a coach. If one of the bios piques your interest, feel free to request them!

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Start coaching

Work with your coach to establish a communication pattern that works for you. Our coaches are available on video, chat, and email (text coming soon!).

Meet our coaches



Hey, I’m Maddie! For the last 4 years, I’ve been living in Los Angeles and New York and have guided countless friends and clients through every stage of dating, from creating app profiles to crafting texts, date planning, defining relationships, and more. With a background in human development and psychotherapy, I understand how to harness the powerful psychology of attraction and attachment in the dating phase and beyond. As a coach, I’m empathetic, honest, and direct - here to build up your confidence, ease any anxiety, and hold you accountable to reach your dating goals – and have fun along the way! The answer to all your dating woes is one click away :)



Hi, I’m Lulu! I’ve been in NYC for the past 7 years, 5 of those single and dating in the city. I’ve dated individuals of varying cultural, professional, educational, and even political backgrounds, and have data points and intel to help you navigate your personal journey. From discovering what your key values and priorities are to navigating family expectations to figuring out whether or not you are being treated fairly and respectfully in a dating situation, I am your girl. No two individuals are the same but my take is that while time and commitment are crucial, a little strategy can go a long way, and I’m here to help with yours!



Hey y'all - I'm Chris! As a resident of Manhattan for the last 8 years and being single for the first half of those years, I understand how much of a slog the NYC dating scene can be. Throughout the years, I've been the go-to person in my group for dating advice (both guys and girls), and I'd love to help you, too. Whether interpreting vague texts, planning a fun 3rd date, dating profile re-vamps, or just a general strategy session on how your dating life is going - I am here to help. I'd love to work with you - feel free to book a time below!

Reasons why people use Vance

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Dating app advice

A lot of our clients are on the dating apps. We are here to give you best practices

on response prompts, pictures, and general tips to help you get off the apps and on the date!

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Text reviews

We can help interpret texts from a date or or help you craft your next response.

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Vent sessions

We're here to chat to hear how a fun date went but also here to talk about any frustrations going on with the headache that can be modern dating. We're your third-party hype-person in your corner!

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Date ideas

We're here to help you plan whatever date it might be (first, third, etc) in whatever neighborhood is most convenient.

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